This is the start line, a moment I want to bookmark for myself so that I can look back later to see how far I’ve come. Because from here on out the only thing I’m going to be working on in my life is getting my health back – until I achieve the goals I’ve set for myself.
All last year I worked on getting my emotional and mental stability back and after a year of therapy I’m in such a better place than when I started. I’m still in therapy and I’m going to need to stick with it a little longer to help me reach my health goals. I couldn’t even begin to address my physical health goals until I got help with my emotional and mental deterioration.
I couldn’t write this blog while it served as a tool for releasing the mental Kraken from the deep dark waters of my mental illness.
For anyone not in the know – I got diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder this time last year. This is in addition to existing PTSD, Generalized Anxiety, and Major Depression. The diagnosis, though not expected, wasn’t actually a total surprise. Getting that specific diagnosis gave me a much better idea of what kind of therapy would best address my mental state.
My therapist has been using IFS therapy which has been profoundly helpful and I’m taking my second DBT short course right now to help support the other therapy. For DBT to work you have to actually practice it daily. It helps you develop better personal discipline but also requires you to actually use what discipline you already have available to build from.
PLEASE DO NOT OFFER ME ANY DIET OR HEALTH ADVICE AT ANY TIME. UNLESS I SPECIFICALLY ASK A PERSON FOR IT, I DON’T WANT IT.
I didn’t have the courage to weigh myself today but I can, from recent weighings, guess that my weight right now is at 280+/- a couple of pounds.
I have high blood pressure.
I have high triglycerides.
I have bad arthritis in one knee and milder arthritis in my other knee and hips. This causes much pain when I try to be physically active. Sometimes just causes pain, period.
I drink too much alcohol (definitely do NOT ask for details on this – or try to advise me in any way)
THE GOALS FOR THE NEXT 12 MONTHS ARE AS FOLLOWS:
Lose between 80-100lbs in the next 12 months (need to lose 100 but understand it might take longer than a year)
Rein back my alcohol consumption to moderate levels (I know what this means for me but am not going to share that detail for self protective reasons)
Continue to increase vibrancy and variety of diet. Work on portion control and over-all calories. Cook more of the food that makes me feel truly good (mostly Mediterranean style vegetarian food)
Do exercises every day to strengthen the muscles around the knees and hips to reduce arthritic pain as per PT people have suggested.
Continue to work on emotional regulation to support these goals.
Mindfulness/DBT/selfcare practices today:
I vacuumed even though I wanted to avoid it because I knew it would make me feel better if I did.
I did an assortment of other household chores as well. I took quite a few breaks, but it felt good when I could see the difference and FEEL it too.
I made a pitcher of my own blend of hibiscus iced tea for later.
I also made a pitcher of my own blend of chai for icing and while it simmered I did an exercise of being completely present and deep breathing the wonderful spicy steam. It was both grounding and uplifting.
I put makeup on.
I kept reapplying my roll-on essential oil blend Veranda because it makes me feel calm. That’s one of the tools in my DBT box of tools.
I’m off to make a salad for dinner and watch serial killer documentaries. Maybe drink tea. Definitely not drinking any alcohol tonight.