Every day there are people getting excited about doing things like traveling to far away places, eating interesting food, getting together with large groups of friends to enjoy each others’ company, and getting dressed up for nights out on the town. There are shows and concerts and balls and dances and parties that fill people’s lives and they look forward to these things. Other friends are excited to take spontaneous road trips to the beach or the woods. So many of them love camping and hiking and other healthy pursuits. So many people I know are giddy about taking their children to amusement parks and big family gatherings. Most people I know are excited to see the end of winter and get the sunshine back. Normal people like games and group activities and sing-a-longs and loud busy restaurants at which the whole world wants a seat.
With near-constant bravado I cheerfully joke about how much I hate summer weather, balloons, parties, board games, any games, amusement parks, swimming in lakes, hiking, sporty pursuits, big groups of people in any circumstance aside from anonymous groups of people at outdoor markets or on busy city streets where no one has the slightest expectations of me. I say I’m totally cool with the fact that I don’t yearn to travel the world, I don’t want to get together with all the people I know in the world, or even a quarter of them, or any number of them above 4 at a time. Though 2 at a time is the only time I’m truly comfortable. I like going to bars completely by myself and getting lunch by myself is a treat I greatly look forward to. Amusement parks depress the shit out of me and it depresses me that other people enjoy them.
I mostly like to hang out with my tiny family and just a small handful of my closest friends, but never all at the same time. I don’t like spontaneity and it bothers me that others value it so much. I loathe surprises of any kind. I don’t like new experiences and though I love the ocean in theory I don’t want to spend much time near it because it makes me anxious. Woods make me anxious too. People make me anxious. Crowded restaurants make me anxious. Places too full of human noise make me anxious. The thought of travel makes me anxious. Going to new restaurants makes me anxious. Car travel makes me anxious. Airplane travel makes me anxious. (Though airports are actually one of my favorite places to hang out and one of my favorite parts of the travel
Behind all the bravado is a constant slow torture and near constant anxiety.
I wish being different didn’t so often make me want to scour out my insides because it makes me so uncomfortable. It’s so many little things that add up every day. Not being able to be part of things everyone around me is excited to be part of. Not wanting to be part of it but then wishing everyone else was like me so I wouldn’t feel so outside of things. It’s like looking into other people’s windows and seeing them all happy and warm and they reach out and invite me in but I can’t come in because I will bring the outside with me where-ever I go. I want to invite them to come outside with me looking into other people’s windows but they don’t want to come outside because it’s always so fucking cold where I’m standing. Cold and dark.
It’s not me who minds the cold and dark, it’s most other people. People naturally seek warmth and light.
I am filled with dark matter.