A Letter to the Creators of Game of Thrones

Game of Thrones

Dear Creators of Game of Thrones,

Last night I rented the first disc of the first season of your show because I was hoping for some good old fashioned geeky fantasy-style entertainment.  Boy oh boy did you deliver the goods!  I got wild wolves getting adopted by a semi-royal family (one for each kid and a runt for the bastard child of the head of the family – how awesome is that?!), a cool mix of iron-age and medieval costuming, lots of morally corrupt adults and a couple of possibly not morally corrupt children to pin all the hopes of humanity on, and white haired dethroned royalty in exile with savages – and that brings me to my first difficult to shake irritation.

Why is fiction that is written and produced by westerners still predictably making the bad people in their stories in the likeness of middle eastern people?  I’m so sick of this awful racist crap.  All those scenes of the white haired princess being married off to the brutal savage who is all swarthy-sweaty-Arabian-ish darkness?  Seriously?  And all that re-enactment of rape with those mostly naked ladies and the killing of the men presented as wedding entertainment and the presentation of the snakes – ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!  You really had to have a basket of snakes?  I’ve only seen three episodes so far but it’s looking like the white haired princess is going to teach her savage rapist husband the ways of “civilized” people.  REALLY?!  Supposedly the reason he only screws her through the back door is because that’s how they do it with their slaves.  Except that that’s obviously not true or all the other non-savage western and “civilized” characters would be having sex face to face, which none of them are.

That brings me to my main and insurmountable irritation with your show.  The non-stop graphic sex.  First of all – I’m not a voyeur.  I don’t like watching people have sex.  I don’t like listening to them have sex.  I’ve had to hear room-mates having sex and hear my parents having sex and I’ve had the misfortune to walk in on people having sex and you know what?  Unless you’re the one having sex – sex is not pretty and it sure as hell isn’t sexy.  Second of all – even if I was a voyeur (as, apparently, most people are) I would like to point out that doggie-style sex is especially unappealing.  Clearly I don’t need to beat about the bush trying to find delicate ways of putting this – since you all have written/directed/acted out hundreds of graphic sex scenes in the creation of this show.  I can see how doggie-style sex is a great position for men: you get a woman on her hands and knees – in a totally submissive position – enhanced by the fact that she can’t look you in the face and you get to stay standing which gives you leverage for your pleasure and a sense of power.  When it comes to the best most pleausrable position for women – this one is NOT it.  Not unless your partner is working very hard to include all your bits which are not typically reached in this position (I’m talking about the clitoris and breasts if you didn’t know that already).  Your male characters are clearly doing nothing to enhance this position for their partners (since you show sex in such detail in your show I would know if they were making an effort – but they’re not) and every single sex scene is in the doggie-style position.  So I’m watching this show of yours and find I hate all the men.  ALL THE MEN.  Because they aren’t interested in any other possibly more enjoyable positions for their women.  It’s selfish, it means their sex is about power, and it means all the women in the show like being submissive.

You’re going to point out that Daeneris gets on top of her savage.  So – one woman demanding that her man stop treating her like a beast is all the nod we need to women actually mattering in this show?  FUCK YOU!

What it boils down to is that this story is written by a man.  Written by a man who really loves the powerful visual of men making women get on their hands and knees for sex.  I don’t like this man.  I don’t like the kind of story this man writes.  I don’t like the way you produced and directed this story of his.

So you suck.  All you creators of this show.  When all your female characters rise up and demand better sex – I MIGHT give your show another chance.  But probably not.


Angelina – who loves fantasy fiction when there’s less explicit sex in it or at least when there’s more variety of sexual positions or at least when there’s a lot less rape or at least one couple having sex because they love each other but mostly who thinks sex is private which is why she doesn’t have sex in her front yard and hopes no one else does either.


  1. Jen says:

    You’ve only seen 3 episodes? Watch more. She definitely doesn’t show savages the way to be civilized – not to spoiler it, but that’s exactly the opposite of what happens.

    I’d also suggest reading the book. It gives more insight into the culture of that group, and they aren’t portrayed as harshly in the books. I think the show had to condense things, and they were trying to show the confusion and how scared a young girl was to be put into such a new environment. It was a bit harsh. The books obviously give more details.

    I agree, I think the sex scenes get to be a bit much .. but, you can always fast forward. The bigger picture, with the politics and scheming, is much more interesting. I think there are some powerful scenes, showing how much power the women have in such an environment/society, and how they work around limitations.

    But yeah, it’s not for everyone. I can see why. Though I enjoyed the books immensely, and I usually don’t like fantasy stuff (I enjoy scifi more).

  2. angelina says:

    It’s too tedious to have to fast forward through so many sex scenes. Even if you were to strip all the sex scenes from the show and even if I got to see later on that the swarthy looking “heathen” people aren’t really being portrayed as savages – there are hardly any sympathetic characters in this show. And I hear from others that what few truly sympathetic characters there are are constantly being killed off. So this is not the story for me, either in book form or show.

  3. Ann says:

    I agree with you, Angelina. I’m not super keen on graphic sex scenes, especially if they are degrading to women. I guess that is probably part of the demographic, if that’s the right word, that they’re appealing to.

  4. EmmaC says:

    This post made me laugh out loud — amen, sister! The books were a tough read for me. They’re told from multiple characters’ points of view and so there were the sections told by characters I absolutely loved (Tyrion, Arya, and Daenerys, actually) against the characters who I loathed so much that I could hardly read their sections (Cersei, Theon [though his character becomes more intriguing], and…well…most of the men). In any case, Daenerys definitely doesn’t teach the savages how to behave — her own character development is pretty spectacular. But yeah…if I wanted to watch porn, I’d just watch porn.

  5. angelina says:

    About Daenerys – I only meant that in the last episode I saw she was learning to “please” what’s-‘is-bucket and the girl who is teaching her talks about how the way he has sex with her is the way they have sex with their slaves and she shouldn’t let him do that. So the last scene I see with them together she insists they do it facing each other and it kind of reeked of the civilized girl teaching savage boy how not to be savage. At least in bed. I thought they might be warming up to a theme there.

    Glad to make you laugh out loud Emma!

  6. minnie says:

    spot on. what i wonder is why the fuck, if you are making up a whole made up world with magic and creatures and shit and made up shit, why cant you make up a different social structure between the sexes? that world could be just as brutal and whatever without ladies getting raped every five seconds. or you know what? if you simply feel that you MUST be rapey throw in more rape of the men as well.

  7. angelina says:

    Minnie – YES YES YES! That was my question – you can create any kind of world you want and you create the same bullshit woman-bashing world we’ve always lived in until recently? COME ON.

    I LOVE SPOILERS – and this is my blog and my post so you can say whatever you want. I’m definitely not going to watch any more of this show and I’m definitely not going to read the books so even if I didn’t like spoilers you can’t ruin anything for me. But if you want you can also ping me on google chat because I’m working right now.

  8. angelina says:

    And I’m not saying we don’t still live in a predominantly woman-bashing world, because we DO, I only meant that it used to be a lot worse.

  9. Callum says:

    Has your opinion changed any in the last 3 years. I stumbled upon this randomly. Decent read, fair comments. But I feel that in total, it lacks the idea of historical retrospect and social commentary. Just interested if your opinion changed, or if you still use such terrifying fraises as predominantly woman bashing world? (please only reply if you are open to conversation and not argument).

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